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A Rare Jewel

A jewel in its natural state appears worthless; its value hidden underneath layers of hard, calloused material. It has to be cultivated with care and appreciation for the hidden value within. The person who cultivates the jewel must have a vision and purpose for the finished product. That person must commit to the time, patience, and passion required to unearth the its value for all to see.

The Bible reads: “Whosoever finds a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22

The word “finds” is used in the same sense of a person seeking a jewel. A true wife is a rare jewel, cultivated by her husband. When the husband first sees his wife she may not look valuable to others, but that husband sees her through spiritual eyes. He has a vision of her future as related to his own. He has purpose for her related to the vision God has given him.

A man cannot be so shallow as to marry a pretty face, a nice body, or even a cultured woman. External beauty fades and culture is related to the environment. A man should marry the woman whose inner beauty and strength, once cultivated, fits his purpose.

When a man marries “a help meet suitable” for the vision that possesses him, God will favor him and bless the family. That marriage will be strong because it will be based on a God given vision and purpose that is eternal.

Single men pray for God’s vision for your life, pursue that because your wife is along that path. Single women develop your gifts and remain flexible as you serve God in this world. If you want a husband and you’re doing God’s will, he’s coming. Let him find you pleasing the Lord for that is a sure sign you can please him.

Do It One More Day……Until It Clicks

 

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“It’s always too early to quit.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale

Woke up this morning with quitting on my mind.  Reached for my Samsung Galaxy S4 to do my social media postings and ran across this quote.  Talk about adrenaline rush; I lay there thinking about what Norman Peale meant and concluded a person has to keep pressing on despite those days when it seems useless to keep at it.  Success, wealth, fame, or name recognition are things that come through a person being excellent.  However, what Peale was telling me was that those persons had to go through days where the possibilities seemed hopeless.  Peale was referring to persistence and perserverance role’s in dream fulfillment.

Dale Carnegie tells the story of a man who bought a gold mine; found some gold and convinced relatives and friends to invest in the gold mine.  He drilled and drilled but hit a fault line that made it appear they had obtained all the resources that mine had to offer.  He sold his equipment, the mine and everything associated with it to a poor, common man whose only attribute was vision and common sense.  That common man immediately hired an expert in mining who explained what fault lines were and calculated where the man should begin to dig.  And you guessed it; 3 feet down from where the other man had quit, this man hit a gusher.  Millions more dollars in gold came from that gold mine.  

When you hit a blockage and you don’t know why; ask someone for help who knows what to do.  Always be teachable and invite others to help you with your dream.  Don’t give up on your dreams, your goals because you think it won’t work.  My father used to tell me, “Son, It only costs a nickel more to go first class.”  So, when you wake up with that quitting feeling, “do it one more day, enlist help, and keep doing it one day at a time until it clicks, until you reach your destination.

It’s your time to soar because you deserve the life you dream!  

Don’t Interrupt Me; Listen

I’m an impatient person. I like for someone speaking to me to get to the point. If it seems that they’re struggling to finish, I will interrupt that person. And when I interrupt that person, invariably I reach wrong conclusions about what he was trying to convey. Sometimes I am hurt, offended, or just put off by what I thought that person meant all because I didn’t wait for him to finish.

This scripture is informative: “Whoever gives an answer before he listens is stupid and shameful.” (Proverbs 18:13 GWT)

That is exactly how I feel. Once I finish my tirade based on what I thought he was saying and discover I was wrong, I feel so stupid. Have you ever heard the words, “let me finish” or “if you had let me finish, you would have known. . .” Over the years I have heard those words repeatedly.

Sometimes my interruptions have caused unnecessary, shameful arguments. But I was trying to move the conversation along at my pace unaware that the other person did not process information in the same way I did. I now realize that I caused more drama, made more mountains out of molehills, and only the grace of God in the other person allowed the relationship to continue. I was forgiven and now I can hear a firm voice say, “LISTEN.” Now I make meager strides to listen more carefully and interrupt more infrequently. Personal growth is learning process indeed.

Conversations, unlike a point guard pushing the ball down court, cannot be rushed. Those involved need to be both respected and affirmed; their thoughts matter. Listening reaffirms a person’s worth.

Prayer: Lord let me be “slow to speak, quick to hear, and slow to wrath.” Help me not to prejudge a matter. Please allow me hear the entire thoughts and intents of that person’s heart. Grace me with empathy and compassion I pray. Help me become a better listener, in Jesus Name, Amen.