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A Rare Jewel

A jewel in its natural state appears worthless; its value hidden underneath layers of hard, calloused material. It has to be cultivated with care and appreciation for the hidden value within. The person who cultivates the jewel must have a vision and purpose for the finished product. That person must commit to the time, patience, and passion required to unearth the its value for all to see.

The Bible reads: “Whosoever finds a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22

The word “finds” is used in the same sense of a person seeking a jewel. A true wife is a rare jewel, cultivated by her husband. When the husband first sees his wife she may not look valuable to others, but that husband sees her through spiritual eyes. He has a vision of her future as related to his own. He has purpose for her related to the vision God has given him.

A man cannot be so shallow as to marry a pretty face, a nice body, or even a cultured woman. External beauty fades and culture is related to the environment. A man should marry the woman whose inner beauty and strength, once cultivated, fits his purpose.

When a man marries “a help meet suitable” for the vision that possesses him, God will favor him and bless the family. That marriage will be strong because it will be based on a God given vision and purpose that is eternal.

Single men pray for God’s vision for your life, pursue that because your wife is along that path. Single women develop your gifts and remain flexible as you serve God in this world. If you want a husband and you’re doing God’s will, he’s coming. Let him find you pleasing the Lord for that is a sure sign you can please him.

Love that Nourishes

Human love is fickle and stressful; it’s based on human emotions. Human love is too weak to carry two people through the vicissitudes or changes in life or each other. Human, earthly love is demanding. The mantra of human love is “If you love me, you will please me.” It demands loyalty, fidelity, respect, and commitment. Yet, because its focus is “what’s in it for me” it ends in conflict and disappointment. Ultimately human love sputters, runs out, gets depleted and suddenly “the thrill is gone.”

But there exists a greater love. This love has a different focus. It’s mantra has best been described by Paul in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a, “Love is patient and kind, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn’t selfish or quick tempered. It doesn’t keep a record of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting. Love never fails!” This love experiences deep emotions but is not based on emotions. This love demands nothing; it gives everything.

This love provides an atmosphere for growth and maturity. This love is called “Agape” in the Greek language; it is the kind of love God is. It is the exercise of love based on a covenant designed to bring out the best in another person. This love endures the most difficult of circumstances because it understands human beings change through the years. Thus, it adapts, it improvises, it loves in the right measure and in the right way necessary for such growth to occur. It is not selfish.

This kind of love can experience highs and lows, joys and pains, yet remain consistent. This is the love necessary when two people join together in marriage. It comes as a gift of God to all who seek and surrender to God’s will. When you find a person with this kind of love, cherish him or her forever. For this is love that endures: Two people joined together in covenant providing each other an environment in which, through Christ they can become their best selves.